Use five-second upgrade grace for every plugin

Ignore legacy grace metadata in both activation paths. Keep superseded delivery,
admission ordering, discovery exclusion and the separate EOF stop budget.
Document the uniform policy and cover both windows and opt-in drain.

Card: SAU-357

sdk/tests/plugins/probe/src/main.rs

@@ -60,6 +60,11 @@ impl Probe {
         sausage_plugin::listen("/state/control", std::rc::Rc::new(Control)).await?;
         Ok(sausage_plugin::pid())
     }
+    /// Keep an idle listener and ownership lock until opt-in drain ends this process.
+    async fn drain_service(&self) -> Result<String> {
+        lock("/drain-owner").await?.keep();
+        self.service().await
+    }
     /// Add two numbers.
     ///
     /// The result is their sum.
@@ -170,6 +175,7 @@ impl Probe {
     #[sausage_plugin::on_stop]
     async fn stop(&self) {
         std::fs::write("/stopped", b"yes").unwrap();
+        std::fs::write(format!("/stopped-{}", sausage_plugin::pid()), b"yes").unwrap();
         Ctx::default().notify("stopped", json!({})).unwrap();
         assert!(call("other.no", json!({})).await.is_err());
     }